I just finished reading this wonderful book called This I Know: Notes on Unraveling The Heart by Susannah Conway. It’s a very thoughtful and beautifully-written book about a woman’s healing journey after her partner passes away suddenly. After each chapter, Susannah invites her readers to reflect upon different facets of their life or feelings through creative writing or photography. It pushes you through your comfort zone and helps us to re-discover ourselves and what makes us special. It also allowed me to mentally draw a picture of myself pre-Derek and post-Derek and how much I’ve learned from him and thank him for inspiring me to be a more special me :).
So I am sharing my “Ten Things” with you.
Ten Things You May Not Know About Me:
1. Before meeting Derek, I wasn’t an outdoor enthusiast. Now I go hiking and enjoy the outdoors as much as possible. Derek taught me how to push the limits within myself. I thank him greatly for that.
2. I almost always place other’s needs in front of myself. I am working on learning a balance so that I do not neglect myself.
3. I would pick to watch a Horror movie over a Comedy or Romantic flick any day.
4. I can play the piano by ear.
5. I love getting “lost” through long Sunday drives.
6. I used to be a D.J. and Sound Tech and as such own a large collection of music across all genres and time periods.
7. Am thinking about getting my first tattoo on my foot that says “Love Never Fails”
8. I am an avid video gamer. My favorite games are Final Fantasy and Skyrim.
9. Majored in International Relations with a language proficiency in Japanese. Check out a future post on a story of how I transitioned from this major into a Marketing career.
10. I love making new connections with people and learning something new everyday. So let’s start here what are “ten things” that you would like your friends and others to know about you?
Jennifer Gardner became a widow at the age of 35 when her husband, Doug was one of beautiful souls killed during the 9/11 World Trade Center attacks. Having experienced true love in its strongest forms, Jennifer was ready to strengthen her foundation to raise her children as a single parent. A chance meeting with a stranger shows that love always finds a way back into our hearts.
I initially found it hard reading this book because of the immediate connection of the pet names Doug called Jennifer just as Derek called me “Bunny.” Also, Jennifer’s stranger’s name was Derek. It was a beautiful and moving memoir which just strengthened my belief in the power of love.
A soulful collection of true stories of people receiving messages of love and hope from loved ones beyond the veil.
A comforting book which offers personal and scientific testimonies of people who have connected with their loved ones who have passed away. While the experience of a loved ones death is personal for all of us — we all share the common need to try to make sense of our experiences and loss — this book is a good resource.
“Love Never Fails…”
That was the inscription etched onto the tiny wooden cross carefully wrapped within an eBay purchase which I was not supposed to receive for another four weeks and delivered by a gentleman whom I never saw before. I had thought the inscription was a “cosmic response” to stressful events taking place within my life. Little did I know as I left the office to go home, it would be a message of faith and love from my new guardian angel.
My best friend and soul mate, passed away unexpectedly that day. And life has felt like a chaotic storm in the short month he has been gone. Every moment, conversation and image associated with my life, our relationship plays like a film reel as it wraps itself tightly around my mind as if afraid to be lost forever. I replay the events of that day every morning and live through the pain of his absence every evening. I feel all of it.
He had always wanted me to share the Story of My Life with others. In my short life, I have already lost my parents, grandparents and host of other family members. He was amazed how someone who lost so much and experienced tragedy so often could still smile and look to inspire others. However this event is different and is preparing me for a new journey which promises to test my faith and spirit. I never imagined he would be a part of this story…
However I know that cross did not come to me randomly; so here I sit starting the first of many posts which I hope will help me through the healing process and spiritual journey with my guardian angel guiding me along the path.
This is one of the first books I purchased after Derek passed. And while I believe this book is suitable for anyone experiencing loss, this is a particularly helpful book for the tribe of women who have lost their husband, spouse or partner.
Susannah Conway’s book is soulful and heartwarming, as she shares her story of transitioning into her new life after the lost of her partner, through creative writing and photography. In sharing her story, Susannah invites us to delve into our own relationships with our loved ones and with ourselves through journal writing and photography. You will see some of my exercises posted in the Reflections section of this blog.
Addititionally, Conway teaches an online photojournalism course which offers a great opportunity to meet other women and make friends. http://www.susannahconway.com/